Get Over Him on a Budget! (tried and tested)
Not everyone is able to jet off into the sunset with a large floppy hat, white framed sunglasses and a Tory Burch bag, when they need to get over an ex. In fact, sometimes, it's the complete opposite. I remember I had to get over a guy in an apartment, all by myself without power (thanks to NEPA), no wifi, and a suspicious presence which I think was a mouse for about two weeks. Oh yeah, I was broke too and I couldn't drive yet. It was basically, me sitting next to my broken heart in the heat and darkness, drinking warm water and counting ceiling panels. Thankfully, I had family around me but only when they returned from work in the evenings and we would hang out.
During that period, i knew the best thing to do would be 1.) Not grovel or call him (ever, ever, ever) I do admit dialing his number a couple of times but then i didn't have credit on my phone, so it disconnected automatically. Lol. So you see, being broke did save me my dignity there.
2.) Get busy.
Not that kind of busy. I mean busy like active and occupied...but on a slender wallet. How? Check out the steps below:
The steps to the budgeted get-over-him plan (in no particular order)
Cry - cheap and cheerful. This works great! Unless you are in a dry desert and you need to conserve your body fluids. In that case, dry cry (I have a niece who is quite skilled at this, crying without tears, I could give you her card. She's a professional)
Face reality - Go through the stuff you own. You might want to box up the things that remind you of him. Of course, if everything reminds you of him, you will soon be without property and who needs property anyway? Seriously though, separate the stuff.
Spend time with family- Family can't dump you! Ha! Though they wish they could but they really can't. Tsktsk. (Love you, fam!)
Friends- Hang out with friends and meet new people even if you don't feel like it. Nobody wants to meet new people when dealing with heart break but its advised. You never know who you might meet!
Exercise- Endorphins! The happy drug. Say Yes to drugs! That sounds bad, doesn't it? I'll rephrase...Say No to drugs but say yes to naturally sourced neurotransmitters. There is no legal way to say this. Just exercise.
Get creative- Make something. Reproduce a recipe. Make a smoothie. Play with watercolor. Mould with clay. Try paper mâché ...actually don't. Don't try paper mâché, it's too much trouble. Try writing. It's cheap, doesn't require wifi or battery power, just paper and a pen.
Work hard at work. Being productive is a great way to be distracted during a heart break.
Don't bother going window shopping it just adds a huge list to the things you can't have right now, including him. Instead, look through you closet and wear your favorite clothing. Dressing up is known for achieving great moral boosts! So wear your "christmas" clothes. Well, unless they remind you of him and are now in the forget-you box (see point 2).
Indulge in ice-cream.... I'm kidding. Lol. Do not indulge in any ice cream. I don't know who came up with this ridiculous "eat your feelings" jibberish. You will gain weight. It's that simple. Weight you don't need. And weight that will get you a muffin top. No muffin tops, guys. Exes always come back to the scene of the crime! And guess who will now look like she has a mushroom cap in place of a waist.
Most importantly, talk to God, he mends hearts. You don't need a monthly plan or recharge card. He's right there. He's listening.
Ever tried to get over someone on a budget? If you have any more break-up budget tips, please share below!
The obvious solution to Doze-Praying
I woke up to this new track from Hillsong and to my new neighbors on the floor above, creaking around on their newly laid wood floors. In between frowning at the ceiling (I thought at a point they had fallen through and were actually now sitting on my bed with that racket!lol) and doze-praying, I got to tell Jesus that he's my only . Believe it or not, it was probably the most intimate time Jesus and I have had this week with trying to set the blog up. There were a couple of breakdowns in the process but hey, even though I was busy, God still put the "umph!" in my triumph!
So doze-praying...... If you doze-pray put your hands up! I am working on that part of my life and the answer to this problem is pretty obvious. I've decided to be aggressive about it. Here's my plan:
- Get OFF the bed when my prayer alarm goes off
- Wear my glasses( I don't know why but my glasses wake me up, makes my eyes focus)
- Brush my teeth and splash some cold water (I'm still unsure about the cold water)
- Get a cup of tea at my desk
- I might eat an apple( studies show apples wake us up with a stronger punch than coffee!)
Yeah, so there's my humble plan. If you are being aggressive too or have overcome doze-praying, please share below!!!!
Also....check out the new track, guys! Enjoy!
Have a fab weekend.
xx
Happy New Blog!
Welcome, Welcome, Welcome!!! This is our new space! Thank you to all who have followed me here. And a special thanks to all who gave me feedback on the old blog and in building this new one. There would be additions and changes on our new space. First, the posts won't be as long. Lol. I know, i know, i hear you thanking me. New also, are a couple of uniquely tagged posts. The most important being the "Selah" posts. They are bible-sourced inspirational posts, which I really look forward to writing. The "influencer" posts, which come up everyday are pretty new too . So brighten someone's day by sharing! Other than those, we're still about becoming life-love-relationship hackers, full of adventure, loving food, people and God; here to chill and grow together.
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